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Category Archive: Meltdowns

May 18 2013

Holy Meltdown Batman, that was really loud

So I’m having problems with the site and it seems like the second I get on the phone with tech support, Emmett decides to have a massive meltdown. 

By decides, I don’t of course mean he choose to have the meltdown.

He’s been screaming for awhile now and there is no consoling him.  He’s in the middle of a pretty big change with Gavin moving home and that’s going to be taking its toll. 

I just wish I had my office still. Right now I have to try an work, right in the middle of all the chaos.  :-(

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Mar 18 2013

Hello dinner time meltdown

Emmett had a pretty big meltdown during dinner. We had breaded fish fillets (think big fish sticks) and he wanted to have his cut up, like everyone else.

Next thing we know, he’s freaking out and hitting himself in the face.

Apparently, he had wanted to change his mind out having them cut up but it was too late.  He had himself all worked up and was completely overstimulated. I scratched him back while Mommy spoke softly to him and we eventually calmed him down  enough to figure out what had set him off. 

I don’t know why he didn’t just ask for new fish? It wasn’t a big deal to us but it definitely was to him.  Anyways, after replacing his fish, he felt much better.

Poor guy, he is so sensitive to things like this.  In fact, he’s easily the most sensitive sensory wise, out of the 3 boys, especially when it comes to food. Followed closely by Elliott.

Gavin on the other hand, used to be so picky the would have to filter out all the visible seasoning in his pasta sauce before he would even look at it.  However, over the years Gavin has made amazing progress and is far and away the easiest to feed.  He’s willing to try new things as well. 

Maybe they other two will work through this as well and come out on the other side, better for it.

For now, we just have to take baby steps, like we did with Gavin. 


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Feb 20 2013

The early morning meltdown

This morning started out really well and then all of a sudden, Emmett just seems to really be struggling.  We had our first meltdown of the day already and it’s not even 7 am.

I’m hoping to be able to turn things around after I get Elliott to school.  I haven’t given up on the day just yet.

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Jan 23 2013

Nothing quite like a bedtime meltdown

Elliott had a meltdown tonight before going to bed.  This lasted about 30 minutes and began when it was time to take his bedtime meds. 

I really hate meltdowns because they’re miserable for all persons involved. 

Elliott has become very tunnel visioned when it comes to things like video games or really anything that captures his attention.  He wanted to play his 3DS in bed tonight and we said that he’s played it enough already today.  That was the trigger. 

We didn’t even kill it cold turkey.  We gave him some lead time to finish up what he was doing. 

He’s just having a rough time anymore.  The stress of everything that Lizze and I are trying to cope with inadvertently spills over and impacts him as well. 

No matter how hard we try to shield the boys from this stress,  it’s simply not possible, it’s just that bad. 

My goal is to get some of these things resolved in short order so that we can provide relief ASAP. 

When you have a child with autism, or an autistic child,  if you prefer,  it’s really hard to keep them from picking up on things like stress and anxiety.  At least in the case with my boys, they are very perceptive and know when something is wrong,  even when we have really,  really tried to keep it from them.  :-)

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Nov 22 2012

A refresher course on Meltdowns

I’ve got a feeling.  That feeling is telling me that today is going to be a rough day, at least as far as Elliott’s concerned.

He’s having a mixed morning and is very easily agitated.

I can already see how some of this is likely to play out.  Elliott will have fun today, only to crash tonight.

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In my experience, kids on the #Autism spectrum can do okay for a little while but once that threshold is reached, it’s all down hill. This is when we tend to see those #Autism or SPD related meltdowns.

If an #Autistic child or adult has a meltdown, more likely than not, they are completely overwhelmed and their body needs to purge.

Anything can be contributing to this.  Lights, sounds, smells, clothes, touch, textures, colors and even expectation or emotional interactions. This is just a few possibilities and are things my kids are sensitive to.  Everyone is different.

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Basically, my kids just absorb everything around them all at once and it completely overwhelms their senses.  Sometimes, it gets to be more than they can cope with and all the anxiety has to come out.

The meltdown is the Avenue most commonly found to vent and purge.

Something I feel very strongly about is that,  these meltdowns are not a reflection of the person behind them.  They are not spoiled brats and most certainly are not in control of that moment.

Meltdowns should not be confused with tantrums.

Tantrums are willful acts, geared at getting something, even attention, through manipulation.  The best example of tantrums I can think of is Gavin.  What Gavin does is a tantrum. He has complete control and can stop at will.

Elliott and Emmett have meltdowns. They have little if any control over these.

I just wanted to put this out there in case you come into contact with someone having a meltdown.

Please be supportive and give them their space. Don’t judge a person based this behavior.

I’m hoping that my kids don’t have a meltdown today but I’m prepared anyway.

Best of luck to you and yours on this very overstimulating American holiday.  :-)

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Aug 16 2012

I need your dicipline advice

I’m looking for a bit of advice.  After Gavin’s latest meltdown this afternoon, I want to make sure to send a strong message,  without going overboard. 

He’s acting as though nothing has happened.  He wants to just pick up where he left off.

I’m of the mind that when something this extreme happens,  that he spends the rest of the day in his room, alone and away from his brothers.  He can read or whatever, but he can’t just rejoin the rest of us,  as though nothing ever happened. 

Honestly,  I don’t feel guilty doing this because we can make it a natural consequence and after disrupting the entire house,  we could all use the separation.

Does this seem too extreme?  I do think think so, personally.

I know Gavin won’t like it, but that’s kind of the points, isn’t it? Perhaps this will make himself think twice before putting everyone through this in the future.

Again so I’m clear.  This meltdown is not related to him having autism.  This is not sensory related at all either. Whether you chose to accept this or not,  these meltdowns are within his control and are willful acts.  He’s trying to punish us for punishing him. If these were the more typical autism related meltdowns that many other deal with,  it would be a different story. 

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       -Lost and Tired

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Aug 10 2012

I’m soooooo tired of these meltdowns

Gavin is having a huge and I mean huge meltdown right now.  I managed to get him to his room and shut the door.

I’m sitting outside his door and making sure that he doesn’t leave.

At the moment, he’s hitting himself with anything that he can. I’m way to friggin tired to deal with this right now so I’m not even watching him. I’m just going to sit outside the door and make sure he stays put. 
Right or wrong,  I honestly want nothing to do with this right now.

This whole thing is because he was caught lying to Elliott,  5 times. When approached about this he got upset.  The end result being that he doesn’t get pizza for dinner like the rest of his brothers.

That is why he’s freaking out. 

This whole thing is ridiculous and unnecessary but he is actively choosing this path and so it is what it is.

I hate these meltdowns…. If they were your more typical autism related meltdowns that would be different. These aren’t and so I don’t have the tolerance for them.

At least not one was in harms way and it was mostly contained to his bedroom. It was noisy,  sure, but everyone else was physically safe.

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