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Jun 11 2013

We face a dilemma


We are facing a dilemma and are unsure of what to do.  We have sorta conflicting appointments for Wednesday and didn’t realize it. 

We have wraparound at 9am and considering this whole CPS thing, this will be an important meeting.

We also have to have Gavin to the Cleveland Clinic by 11:00am for is ultrasound.  He then has xrays at 1pm and his actual appointment with urology at 2:30pm. These tests were only recently added but they make sense to do prior to the appointment. 

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On top of that, I’m not feeling super confident that the van will make it. 

Even though the transmission isn’t the problem, but more of a symptom, it still makes the car unreliable and in my mind, unsafe to drive.  The last thing I want is to do is have the transmission slipping while on the freeway.

On the plus side, I found out it’s a lot cheaper to get the van fixed than I previously thought. 

The last problem is that Lizze has been sick in bed since 8am this morning.  All the stress is causing some problems and she’s basically been sleeping all day. 

I have no idea if she will feel better in the morning and I really need her help tomorrow. 

At this point, I have no idea what the right thing to do is.  Thankfully, we see Dr. Patti this evening and I can discuss this with her and she can offer me some guidance. 

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Jun 11 2013

Just one more reason to detest @Apple


Those of you that know me, know that I have a strong disdain for the Apple Corporation.  I actually like the iPad and while I prefer android powered devices, I recognize that Apple puts out a quality, albeit locked down, product.

With that said, you may know that I received an iPad recently and will be doing a comprehensive right up, comparing it to android tablets.

I will admit that I do actually like the iPad. 

Having said that, while downloading the Google Chrome Browser to my iPad this morning, I received a message saying that this was a restricted app, due to inappropriate content. 

The content in question would an arguably better browsing experience.

Check out the picture below and read the rating and warning for this app.  In my opinion, this is in place to discourage users from using a better browser.

I’m disappointed Apple. 

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Jun 11 2013

Because it needs to be said…..


It’s been awhile since I’ve addressed this but it appears as though the time has come once again.

For the record.  The whole point of this blog is transparency. I provide as much detail as I can, not to gain sympathy or donations, as has been insinuated. I do things this way because I want people to understand what happens in our day to day life. 

It’s important that people understand all the obstacles we face as a family raising 3 boys with special needs.  My goal is that you can apply what you learn from my family, to someone in your life that may be going through something similar. 

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There will always be people that hide behind screen names and word vomit unpleasant things.  To them I say this.  I know what I’m doing and I know why I’m doing it.  I think that most people understand the point of what I’m doing and also understand that these posts are not meant to bring in money. 

Yes there is a donation link.  That was put there in response to the many, many requests I received from my readers. You don’t have to use it but it’s there if you do. 

Before I put the link up, people would try to send donations through the mail, without me knowing and they would end up lost or sent to the wrong address. I agreed to put up the link because people wanted to help but their kindness and generosity was lost in the mail.

This blog isn’t about financial gain for my family. It exists to share our story, educate the public, spread awareness and connect with other in similar circumstances so they know they aren’t alone. 

If I wanted to make money, I would put up ads or do sponsored posts and I may do that at some point.

Right now, I know that I’m helping people and honestly, that’s all that matters to me.  I will not edit or censor comments that are unpleasant because I want everyone to see what families like mine are up against.  Hate, ignorance and stupidity.

Alright, now I will climb down off my high horse and start trying to raise money for the Autism Society of Greater Akron.

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Jun 11 2013

Please Sponsor Team Lost and Tired as we walk 5k for the Autism Society of Greater Akron


This is a bit last minute but so much of our lives are lived that way anyway. :-)

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We have formed Team Lost and Tired and are collecting donations and even new teammates as we take this journey to assist and support a fantastic organisation. This coming Saturday, June 15th, the Lost and Tired family, along with friends and family, will be walking 5k to raise money for the Autism Society of Greater Akron. This is not a walk for Autism Speaks. All the money raised stays within the local community to help those with Autism and their families.

I know that times are tough but if you are in a position to help raise money by donating even $1, that would be amazing. We’re a bit behind the 8 ball on this as we are starting late but I know we can pull this off together. If you can’t donate, please don’t feel bad. You can still help by sharing this post on facebook, twitter and anywhere else you can.

Myself, Lizze and the boys will be walking. I’m not sure how Lizze will do but she’s gonna try and I’m so proud of her.

Please visit the link below to view our Official Team Lost and Tired Lace it. Race it. Face it donation pageYou can make online donations and offline donations as well. Please consider helping me and my team as we help to raise Autism Awareness and money for the Autism Society of Greater Akron..

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Information about the race can be found here: http://akronautism5kandwalk.org/race-info

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Jun 11 2013

Parents’ fear of vaccinations nearly killed their son


A message from Lost and Tired: When you read this, please keep in mind that the sole purpose of me reblogging this is to show that the decision to vaccinate your child or not to vaccinate your child is not easy. by any means. This is one family’s story of choosing not to vaccinate and paying a very, very heavy price as a result.

On the flip side, there are families out there that vaccinate their child, in a bid to do the right thing and their child is injured by the vaccine that was supposed to protect them. When you consider the shear amount of people vaccinated each year, vaccine injury is not common but it does happen.

There are risks associated with both choices and it’s so incredibly important that you know the facts when making your decision to vaccinate or not.

My concern for society is that there is so much misinformation online. Some people claim vaccines are 100% safe and that’s simply not true. It’s impossible to know how each individual person will respond to a vaccine. I personally believe that vaccines are overwhelming positive but they do come with risks, no matter how small the risks are, they’re still risks.

There are also people out there that say vaccines are 100% bad and even go so far as to say evil. I think that any rational person would conclude that this is of course untrue. Again, there is a subset of the population that does react very poorly to vaccines and this is usually caused by an unknown genetic vulnerability. Some people are seriously or even fatality injured as a result of this combination. This is a fact.

The hard part comes when parents are trying to absorb all of the information available and make an informed decision about vaccines and their child’s safety.

The story below is one family’s experience after choosing not to vaccinate their child. I’m sure I can find stories about people with seriously injured children as a result of choosing to vaccinate and I wouldn’t hesitate to share that as well.

It’s important to keep these stories in context because when you look at the statistics and actual numbers of people who vaccinate and the people who don’t, you will learn a lot about the consequences of both decision.

Personally, I would never dream of telling you what to do. I will offer one bit of advice and that is you can’t always believe what your read or hear. There are a great many people writing and speaking about vaccines, on both sides of the issues, that are doing so in very irresponsible way. One family’s experience, no matter how tragic or positive is just that, one family’s experience. 

I applaud the Williams honesty and willingness to share their heartbreaking story with the world.

I welcome discussion on this topic but expect everyone treat each other with respect because we all want what’s best for our children.


 

The following post is by Emma Wynne and borrowed from http://www.abc.net.au. All credit goes to her for this article. 

The original can be found here: http://www.abc.net.au/local/stories/2013/06/06/3776327.htm

Parents’ fear of vaccinations nearly killed their son

Auckland parents Ian and Linda Williams thought they had made an informed choice not to vaccinate their children, but after their son ended up in intensive care with a tetanus infection they realised they had made a terrible mistake.

 

“The mistake that we made was that we underestimated the diseases and we totally over-estimated the adverse reactions”, says father Ian Williams, who is speaking publicly of his family’s ordeal in an effort to warn other parents about the dangers of not immunising their children.

Minor cut, major infection

It started when seven-year-old Alijah got a small cut on the bottom of his foot in December 2012.

“Of course we didn’t think it was too serious, it was just a little cut but a couple of days later he started getting symptoms like a stroke on the side of his face,” Mr Williams says.

“A couple of days later during the night he started to get cramps across his face. His face would contort and he was in a lot of pain.”

After 24 hours in Auckland’s Starship Children’s hospital, the doctors diagnosed Alijah with tetanus, and he was taken to intensive care.

Mr Williams recalls his son’s agony, “It’s a terrible thing… Your whole body arches, your arms go up in the air.”

“It’s like getting cramp but it’s everywhere, across the face as well. They are so tight your jaw locks.”

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Alijah Williams in the intensive care unit in December 2012 (Ian Williams – Supplied)

“The tetanus bacterium makes a toxin that attacks the nerves.”

“It got so bad they put him in an induced coma just to put him out of his misery.”

Ian and his wife were asked to leave the room as doctors cut a hole in Alijah’s throat so a life support tube could be inserted, and Alijah was heavily sedated for the next three weeks to allow his body to heal.

“We felt terrible.”

“He was in such pain due to us and our decision-making process so that’s why we went to the papers in New Zealand – we just wanted to get our experience out there.”

“It was very obvious we had made a mistake.”

Deciding not to vaccinate

As well as Alijah, the Williams have a nine-year-old son and a two-year-old daughter, and Ian Williamson says they did their own research and decided not to vaccinate their children.

“My wife was very against it for her own reasons,” he says.

“I have a science degree and my wife since then has got a science degree as a midwife. I was open to both ideas so I looked into it.

“If you google vaccines you get a lot of pros and a lot of cons, and you start to read all the cons and they start to weigh on you and you start to believe all the things that are said.

“It looks like a fifty-fifty argument.”

Williams says that he was influenced by stories he read on the internet that the MMR (Measles, mumps and rubella) vaccine was linked to children developing autism; that they contain mercury and aluminium and that vaccines are promoted by drug companies purely for profit.

“There are a number of myths out there, and it’s really easy to get sucked in.”

“As soon as they said it was tetanus my other two kids were vaccinated the very next day, against all childhood diseases.”

Speaking out

The Williams’ also took the unusual step of going public about what had happened to Alijah.

Ian Williams says he wants to help other parents who he thinks may be as overwhelmed as he was by the conflicting information about vaccines that is published online.

“No one wants to hurt their kids; we didn’t want to hurt our kid of course.

“The main research that you should do as a parent when you’re looking at vaccination, the easiest and the clearest thing you could do would be to survey doctors and ask them if they are pro or anti vaccines.

“What you will find is that almost all of them are. Then ask yourself the question, why is that?

“Once you see one of these diseases, they are terrible. Children die from these diseases.”

“The mistake that we made was that we underestimated the diseases and we totally over-estimated the adverse reactions [to vaccines]”

Huge response

Despite the often highly-charged and polarised debate around childhood immunisations, Ian Williams says he’s been happy to speak out and that the response to Alijah’s story has been very positive.

“We’ve had a very big reaction in New Zealand. Alijah was on the front page of two of our biggest papers and doctors have been putting up his picture in their rooms and say families have been coming in and getting their kids vaccinated.

“There has actually been a small percentage increase in New Zealand’s vaccination rates [since the story was published in January].

“That’s why we did it. I’m happy to be the poster boy for vaccination.”

Six months on, Alijah is recovering well.

“After three weeks in intensive care he gradually came out of it,” Williams says.

“They gave him less and less drugs and his nerves started to heal.”

When he came out of his heavy sedation, Alijah had to learn to walk and eat again.

“He’s fine now and all you can see now is some scarring on his throat from the tracheotomy, he’ll probably have that his whole life.

“It’s a small price to pay. Ten percent of all people with tetanus die.”

What is tetanus?

Tetanus is caused by bacteria which are present in soils, dust and manure. The bacteria can enter the body through a wound which may be as small as a pin prick. Tetanus cannot be passed from person to person.

Tetanus is a potentially fatal disease which attacks the nervous system. It causes muscle spasms first felt in the neck and jaw muscles. Tetanus can lead to breathing difficulties, painful convulsions and abnormal heart rhythms.

Because of the effective immunisation, tetanus is now rare in Australia, but it still occurs in adults who have never been immunised against the disease or who have not had their booster vaccines.

Tetanus vaccines are offered to free infants at 2, 4 and 6 months of age, and again at age 4 years of age and in year 8 of secondary school.

Source: WA Health Department

 

 

 

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Jun 11 2013

The never ending transportation saga: Big Update


I wanted to update all of you on what I found out about our van.  I met up with my Dad tonight and we pulled the codes.  Turns out the issue is that cylinder 3 is misfiring.

From what I’m being told, if the engine is misfiring, the transmission won’t shift correctly.

This is good news because it’s very likely that this can be fixed with a simple tune up.  Simple is actually the wrong word to use because it’s actually extremely complicated. Some of the spark plugs are on the back of the engine block and there’s no way to get to them without tearing a whole lot of stuff off in order to get access.

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Interesting fact, that little yellow like means there is a problem with the emissions control. It looks like a service engine soon light but it’s not.

There is also something wrong with the air intake.

If we do the tuneup ourselves, it’s gonna run about $150. However, because of the level of difficulty, we may have to take it somewhere and have it done.  If that’s the case, we’re looking at about $500-$700.

Again,this is what I’m being told by people in the know.
Good news is that the transmission is likely just fine and the car actually driving fine now.  Having said that, we know this is a problem now so it’s just a matter of time before it happens again.

This is one of those good news/bad news kind of things.

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Jun 11 2013

Child Protective Services Investigation: Update 6/11/2013


You know, I guess there really isn’t much to report at this point, no pun intended.  Having said that, I have been thinking a lot about this while thing. 

I have an ongoing poll right now, trying to get an idea of how many people have been through something similar to us. Check out the stickied post on the top of my home page a cast your vote. 

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It’s interesting and by interesting, I mean sad or even scary. So far, we’ll over a hundred people have voted in the poll and it show that an overwhelming amount of people, have had CPS called on them for fictitious reasons.

Even sadder is that fact that almost half of those that answered yes, also said they’ve had this happen more than once.

I’m going to eventually do a big write up and share everything that I’ve learned during this experience.

Back to our story…..

We were interviewed a week ago and I was told they would be calling me this week.  All we are waiting on is feedback from our medical teams.  Once they have verified our story, we can begin the process of putting this behind us. 

I hate the waiting though.  It feels like an eternity that is full of uncertainty.  It’s not over until it’s over.

When I finally get that letter of vindication, I’m framing it and hanging it on the wall because I never want to forget what we’ve been through. 

It’s a perspective thing for me. 

Despite how crappy this whole thing has been, I’m determined not to let the person who did this to my family, win.

There will be positives that come out of this…

I’ll keep you all updated every other day or so, barring new information.

Thank you all again, for all your love and support.  :-)

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