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Nov 25 2012

I just love Emmett’s logic

Emmett was eating some jumbo shrimp for lunch this afternoon when he decided that he couldn’t deal with the tails. 

Now, up to that point, he was eating around the them as is commonly done by most people when they eat shrimp.

Today however, he wasn’t willing to do that.

He first wanted to cut the tail off with a pair of scissors, but we said no. 

We explained to him that he just needs to hold it by the tail and use his teeth like scissors and bite off and chew up the part of the shrimp that he’s supposed to eat, just like he normally would.

Apparently, today the tail was disgusting and he wouldn’t even touch it. 

However, he didn’t let that stop him.  In true Lost and Tired family fashion, he thought outside the box and came up with a solution that far less disgusting [insert sarcasm here] than actually touching the tail himself. 

What did he do?

He flipped the shrimp around and holding it by its body, allowed Maggie, our English Staffy, to bite off the tail for him.  He then proceeded to eat it. 

Not wanting to attack his creativity and problem solving skills, I had to speak with him about this. 

I asked him why he did that. He replied,  “Daddy, the tail is disgusting and I don’t want to touch it”. After explaining to me his reasons, he ran off to play.

That’s pretty sound logic, right?

I mean, obviously it’s far less disgusting to allow Maggie to bite the tail off for him,  than touch it himself. After all,  she’s only using the same mouth that she licks her own butt with and sometimes Bella’s gross parts as well.

But hey,  +1 of ingenuity, am I right?

Emmett John,  get back here, why don‘t we go brush your teeth again, you know, just for fun.

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Jun 19 2012

#Autism and destructive behavior

Something that really frustrates me is some of the destructive behavior we see from our kids on the #Autism spectrum.  Not all my kids are destructive, it’s mostly Gavin and to a much lesser extent,  Emmett. Just because a child is on the spectrum doesn’t mean they are going to be destructive.

Gavin has destroyed countless things over the years. Most of the physical damage was done to his own property but sometimes the damage occurred to other things as well.

We used to replace the destroyed items when we were just starting out on this journey.  We learned pretty quick that it was something we could keep up.  Not only was it to expensive but it sent the wrong message to Gavin.

The latest issue we have had was with his mattress cover.  As you can see,  it’s lost its effectiveness.  This began during his meltdowns and the end result can be seen below.

The only way we can even begin to have the slightest hope of teaching Gavin the value of money and to respect both his and other people’s property is to make him replace the items he breaks. Accidents are one thing but purposeful destruction is something all entirely different.

If you experience destructive behavior,  how do you cope and how do you teach your child that’s not acceptable behavior?

You’ll note in the picture below that Gavin is without a bed frame or box spring.  The reason for that is because he physically destroyed both,  one more than one occasion.  We can’t afford to replace things only to have them destroyed during a meltdown.

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May 08 2012

A unique approach to sensory issues

Anyone that has followed our story knows that Emmett struggles with many sensory related issues.

One of the biggest issues we face is getting Emmett to wear socks and shoes.  He doesn’t always tolerate the feeling of socks and shoes on his feet. He’s been doing much better lately but we still have to constantly adjust his socks because they are hurting him.

So we decided to try something a bit different.  Now,  I will say that I can see many Dad’s not really liking this idea and honestly,  I can understand.

Basically,  one day,  Emmett stumbled upon Lizze painting her toe nails and became fascinated with the idea of seeing paint on his little piggy toes. In the interest of full disclosure,  I wasn’t thrilled with the idea of painting his toe nails but I’m a bit more progressive and so I got over it pretty quick.

He only wants his big toe painted and really likes changing colors every few days.

Anyway,  I decided that I would take advantage of the unique situation.  I have explained to him that when his toes are painted his socks will feel better and it has helped.

It’s not a perfect solution but sometimes beggars can’t be choosers. As special needs parents,  we very often have to think outside of the box in order to find a solution to the very unique problems we are often faced with. 

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May 05 2012

Does this make me a bad person?

In the Lost and Tired family, we don’t believe in spanking or hitting.  So we have to do a lot of outside of the box thinking.

We recently took in a puppy a couple of months ago. Bella has been a great edition to the Lost and Tired family. Although she doesn’t require some patience and training.

Elliott and Emmett are requiring a great deal of time, energy and most of all, patience.  I’m becoming increasingly overwhelmed and frustrated by their behavior. Their are both fanfreakingtastic kids and I love them completely.

Having said that, sometimes I find myself wanting to use the training methods from Bella as a means of deterring the problem behavior with the boys.

Basically,  it would go something like this.  When Emmett and Elliott were fighting or doing something else they should not be doing,  I would break out the spray bottle and squirt them.  They both hate getting wet so I think it would work.  The question is whether of not there is ethical issue with that :-)

Of course,  I’m not actually going to do that but sometimes I wish I could.

When the boys start fighting, I could simply squirt,  squirt and they would stop. Then I could keep the squirt bottle on the mantel to serve as a reminder.

Like I said, sometimes I just want things to stop and employing methods like a squirt gun or spray bottle don’t always seem so wrong..

Anyone else ever feel this way?

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Apr 20 2012

The Bella-in-a-box

I thought I would share this because it’s pretty darn funny.  Bella had gotten into the dog food closet and got her head stuck in the dog biscuit box

She kept running into the wall and falling over.  She wasn’t getting hurt and it wasn’t easy to catch her.

I was totally cracking up…  Maggie was even trying to help her get the box off her head.

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Mar 03 2012

From the bottom of my heart: Thank You

I wanted to take this opportunity to say Thank You. Thank you for all the love and support you have shone my family. I have been so humbled by your generosity and kindness. I have tried to respond to each and every one of you with a personal email and/or thank you card. As you know, things don’t always go as planned for us. I’m just want you to know how much you all mean to us.

I really feel honored to call you friends.

We love reading your letters and emails. The boys love getting the postcards ect in the mail as well, so thank you for thank as well.

I’m always here is you need anything. I really want to help as many people as I can.

Please think about joining the Lost and Tired Community Autism Support Forums. It’s free and we could use your experience. :-) Register and join in or start your own conversation.

You can email me: Contact Me 
If you would like to send us mail ect:
Lost and Tired
P.O. BOX 8272
Canton, Ohio 44711

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Feb 24 2012

Thank you, Thank You

I wanted to take a moment and say Thank You to everyone out there. I love to read your comments and receive your emails, so please keep them coming. In case you haven’t noticed, I’m behind once again on replying those comments and emails. It’s always my goal to reply to every single comment and email I receive. You took the time to reach out to me and the means so much. I honestly do my best to keep up with the influx of email and comments but sometimes I simply can’t.

Please be patient with me as I work to respond to as many of you as I possibly can.

Thank you for your understanding and support. The entire Lost and Tired family is so grateful for all of you. ;-)

 

In case anyone feels the need to use it, I have set up a PO BOX and will check it regularly. If you would like to send mail or correspondence in this way, I would love to hear from you. Please address letters in the following manner to ensure proper delivery:

Lost and Tired

P.O. BOX 8272

Canton, Ohio 44711

 

Thank you all so very much for everything. Please don’t forget to my Community Autism Support Forum, we would love to have you. As always, it’s private, confidential and place free from judgement and bullying. Let me know if you have any trouble with the registration process. :-)

 

 

 

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