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Apr 04 2013

What is it about haircuts?

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April 4, 2013


I feel that there is always something to be positive but not at the expense of being realistic. In my opinion, dealing with reality is absolutely crucial, especially when it comes to raising special needs kids. 

There is a very fine line between being positive and approaching a situation in a realistic manner.

As silly as it sounds, Lizze and I are getting ready to approach a situation that many parents of Autistic kids would avoid like the plague. Can you guess what that is? That’s right, haircuts.

There are so many other things in the world my boys would rather do than get their hair cut.  To be completely honest, there are a million  and on things that I would rather do than take them get their hair cut.

On many occasions, we have gone and come back with the same about of hair on their heads that they left with. Only now they were extremely stressed out and overstimulated.

I don’t know what it is about a haircut that sets them off. Perhaps is the sounds of the trimmers, or the anxiety of having someone inside their personal space and touching them.

All I know is that I’m about to attempt this on my own because Lizze is not feeling well now.

What is about a friggin haircut?


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Apr 03 2013

Frustration

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April 3, 2013


I love my kids, I love my kids.  Having made that clear, I’m going to admit to you all that they are driving me completely bonkers today.  They are fighting over absolutely everything. 

Perhaps they are both overstimulation from the Easter holiday still, I don’t know. 

What I do know is that their constant fighting and bickering is driving me closer and closer to my breaking point.

Lizze and I wanted to take the boys and get their hair cut today.  I don’t see that happening now. 

I’m pretty sure that we would be out of our minds to make that attempt on a day like today.  Naps aren’t in anyone’s future either.

It’s still too cold and the neighborhood too dangerous to let the boys play outside in the yard.  Even with it being fenced in, there are just too many scary things going on around us, to take that chance. 

Later in the week, it’s supposed to be warmer and we should be able to get them to the playground a few times.

It’s no secret that my family is in a pretty bad place.  I don’t always go into just how bad things are but they’re pretty bad and I’m enormously stressed out, as I try to keep us moving forward.

I think for right now, there is just too much stress in the air. Even if Lizze and I do our best to hide it from the boys, they still feel it and it affects them….. ASD kids may not always understand the emotions they’re exposed to but they certainly feel them.

Frustration sets in because I have to get some work done and I can’t because I need to constantly be on top of things with the boys.  Because of the whole Gavin thing, our parents are tide up with him and are unable to help us with the others. 

Lizze does the very best she can but she’s in so much pain, all the time.

We’re lucky to have such helpful and supportive parents  but that’s all that we have. 

Still it’s something to be grateful for and it’s more than what many other people get.

Life as this special needs family is not easy.  I don’t often use the word impossible but many times it truly feels like survival is impossible, unless we get some help. Unfortunately, there just isn’t much help out there, either that, or our challenges are such that we just don’t fit anywhere.

Frustrated….  :-(


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Apr 01 2013

Do you ever feel forgotten by those around you?

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April 1, 2013


I was wondering if anyone else out there gets resentful? I don’t necessarily mean anything about our kids. 

Perhaps frustrated is a better word to use.  I find myself frustrated and even a bit resentful because while my family is struggling to survive, it seems like life just goes on, all around us. 

I’m the oldest of 6 kids and everyone lives within 30 minutes of each other, some just a few minutes down the road. You know what, I never hear from any of them. No one seems to have a clue how bad things are going for us. I mean, it’s not like I keep it a friggin  secret. Jesus Christ, I have almost 1,000,000 hits every single month. Do you know how many of them are from my siblings?

Zero……

They love us and they love the boys, there’s no question about that.

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Why not be more involved? Why not try to help us? Why not call and just see how we’re doing?

Today at Easter dinner, I was really in a bad place.  I was listening to everyone talking about places they go together and all the fun they’re having.  I’m happy for them and I want them to have fun but why do we seem to be forgotten?

I know we can’t go most places and we never have money to go out but that doesn’t mean we can’t at least talk on the phone. 

When something goes wrong, Lizze and I are the first ones that everyone goes to for help and we’re always happy to give or do whatever we possibly can.

Just so we’re crystal clear. I don’t feel like we’re entitled to anything and no one owes us at all, but it would be nice not to feel like we’re forgotten. Every day is such a struggle and sometimes it would be nice to not feel forgotten.

Do you ever feel like you’re forgotten by those around you? Do you ever get frustrated or feel hurt that life goes on around you as though you and you’re family aren’t there?


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Mar 31 2013

Do your kids hurt each other?

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March 31, 2013


Elliott and Emmett got into another fight this morning. Elliott got shoved and was coming downstairs to get help.  Emmett was afraid and was doing everything he could to stop Elliott from telling me what happened, including putting his hands around Elliott’s throat. 

When Elliott got downstairs, Emmett ran down the steps, completely freaking out and punching himself in the face. 

I know kids will be kids but this doesn’t feel right to me and I’m concerned. 

Elliott’s fine but Emmett bent his glasses by hitting himself in the face and that scares me. 

I don’t know how to pull everyone out of this and into a better place. Everyone is beyond stressed out and life doesn’t seem to want to cut us any slack or take a break from the constant onslaught of crap it keeps heaving our way.

After talking to both Emmett and Elliott about what happened, I still don’t know what really triggered this event. 

Perhaps they are both overstimulated from Easter already? Maybe they are upset because Gavin’s not here? Most likely, it’s a combination of many things most of which are outside of our ability to control.

Do your kids ever lash out at each other? How do you handle it?

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Mar 31 2013

Happy Easter 2013 :-)

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March 31, 2013


I just wanted to wish you all a Happy Easter.  I hope I don’t offend anyone by doing so. 

To me, Easter is about a fresh start and doesn’t have to necessarily have a religious undertone. Spring is here and the world is coming back to life.  There’s a fresh sense of hope for the future.

I wish you all the very best.  You deserve the very best.  :-)
Have peaceful Sunday and enjoy the time with your families and friends.  :-)

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Mar 30 2013

Sleepless in Ohio

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March 30, 2013


For some reason, I can’t sleep tonight.  Rather than keep Lizze awake, I moved downstairs to the couch, with the dogs.  Perhaps, I’ll play a bit of XBOX and maybe fall asleep before too long.

Truthfully, our mattress is so uncomfortable that the couch is a welcomed change. 


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Mar 29 2013

Do your kids with #Autism ask questions endlessly?

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March 29, 2013


Emmett is a question asker, to the extreme.  He wants to know everything about everything.. It feels like he bombards me with hundreds of questions a day. 

Today he asked me why the zipper on his coat was plastic? I said, because that how it was made.

My answer led to almost a doze  other questions, which were good questions, just overwhelming and difficult to answer.

I was wondering if it’s just my kids or do your kids do the same thing. 

 

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