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Jan 21 2013

The semantics of #Autism


Every once in awhile I feel the need to focus some attention on something that really needs to be addressed. 

My trip up the soapbox today is brought to you by the semantics of #Autism.

When I refer to the Semantics of #Autism, I’m referring to the splitting of hairs over word choice.  This has really become kind of disheartening and I’ll tell you why. 

Before I share why I find this disheartening, let me explain what’s going on first. 

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Basically, this splitting of hairs is over whether one should say “a child with autism” or “an autistic child”. In other words, if you are talking to someone about your child and Autism is brought up, should you say “Jonny has autism” or “Jonny is autistic”?

In my opinion, either one is perfectly fine.

However, there are people in the world that put what I feel is way to much weight on a persons choice of words.

For example, some people are extremely offended if you refer to someone as having autism. Yet there are others that are equally offended if you refer to someone as being autistic.

As you can probably guess, there’s no way to know who prefers what, short of them wearing a sign that states their personal preference.  It can literally be like walking through a minefield at times. 

I’ve lost track of how many times someone has felt the need to correct my choice of words. In fact, it happened again today. 

Sometimes the corrector is polite and other times, not so much.

What I really don’t understand is why people are letting something as simple as word choice, get under their skin to the point that they get really upset. I really want to understand why this is so offensive.

I know all about the person first language.

Personally, I think it’s absurd that we choose to bicker over something as petty as semantics. I mean, I consider myself a pretty sensitive person. I care a great deal about other peoples feelings, thoughts and opinions.

Having said that, I just can’t wrap my head around the person first language.

What I really find disheartening is the fact that semantics can and often times does, drive a wedge between us. I get the point of the person first language. However, I think the notion of putting the person before the disorder is often times misguided.

If we spend so much time trying to seperate the person from the autism, doesn’t that give the impression that having autism, or being austic is somehow bad?

We spend all this time preaching about acceptance or understanding and yet we can’t even agree on terminology.

I feel like, if we truly accepted autism and embraced it, we wouldn’t care whether some said with autism or autistic.

I worry that this community will continue to be fragmented by our petty differences..

As a father to 3 boys in the autism spectrum, I truly hope you can prove me wrong.

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Jan 21 2013

The lighter side of #Autism: Safe and Sound


I grabbed this picture earlier. Emmett had fallen asleep while sitting with Mommy under the electric blanket on the couch.

This was just too cute and I wanted to freeze that moment and subsequently share it with all of you.

Isn’t he just adorable? The correct answer is yes. :-)

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Jan 20 2013

That’s the goal


Good morning everyone. I hope your Sunday is a pleasant one. So far, Sunday has been pretty good to us.

The boys are getting along, for the most part.

Lizze is suffering a great deal this morning though. I’m going to try and keep this a very low key kinda day.

Hopefully, I can get some writing and housework done this afternoon. That’s the goal anyway.

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Nov 30 2012

How do you handle the Christmas Holiday with your #Autistic child


I try to have this discussion every year about this time.  I personally enjoy and actually learn quite a bit about how your family handles the Christmas Holiday.

Not everyone celebrates Christmas, I realize that.  The question is basically, how do you handle the holiday season? This tends to be a very overstimulating time of year for many kids and adults only the #Autism spectrum.

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It would be great if we could share some tips or tricks on how you minimize the holiday stress for your child on the sectrum.

In the comments below, please share with us, how you handle the Christmas/Holiday season? How do you make it easier for your child with #Autism? How does your child on the spectrum respond to all the bright light, noise and chaos of said holiday season?

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Aug 04 2012

Can you imagine having 3 boys on the #Autism spectrum and living a parade route?


I don’t have to imagine,  I’m there right now.  It’s 9am and my kids are already over stimulated. The noise rattles the windows and even I can feel that same noise. I can only imagine what this must me like for my kids. 

Since I can’t take the parade out of my neighborhood, I’ll just have to remove my kids until it’s gone.

Now I just need to figure out something to do with 3 extremely overstimulated kids and a wife with a migraine.

Have I mentioned that I detest Hall of Fame Week?  If not, or you missed it,  I HATE Hall of Fame week………  

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       -Lost and Tired

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Jun 16 2012

How do you explain tattling to a child on the #Autism spectrum?


Everyone since this whole thing with Gavin and boundary issues started a few months ago,  Elliott has become an extreme tattletale

We had a talk with Elliott many months ago about not keeping secrets from us.  Gavin had once again begun having issues with respecting personal space and inappropriate touching. Elliott was a target for those issues.

When we found out,  we met with Dr.  Pattie and had a long talk with Elliott about not keeping secrets and no one being allowed to touch him etc.

Since then,  Elliott has become very good at not keeping secrets. In fact,  he has taken to almost constantly reporting everything that happens. 

He has become a tattletale.

What started out as simply wanting him to tell us if Gavin did something that made him uncomfortable has turned into a constant stream of tattling. It’s actually become a problem and it’s one of our own creation.

Do you folks have to deal with any tattletales in your house?  How do you explain the difference between good tattling and bad tattling to a child on the #Autism spectrum?


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       -Lost and Tired

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May 31 2012

Addressing #Autism’s misconceptions with creativity


There is so much misconception in the world about #Autism.  There is an assumption that kids in the spectrum are somehow less intelligent than their typical peers. 

This however,  couldn’t be farther from the truth. Kids on the #Autism spectrum are among the smartest there are.

What I think happens is that people make assumptions based on a child’s behavior or ability to talk. That is a horrible mistake. While it’s true that kids with #Autism can be challenging, present with major behavioral problems or maybe not be able to speak,  that it not a reflection of who they are on the inside.

My kids,  while extremely challenging,  are both super smart and very creative.

Today I want to share Emmett’s latest creation. 

I can’t remember what these blocks are called but they are a ton of fun for the boys.  Today,  Emmett was putting together silly creatures.  This was my personal favorite.

He didn’t name it but who cares.  It’s still pretty darn creative.

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